Archive for Personal Insights

The small difference


Colleague: Don’t you feel sleepy after long hours at night?

Me: You see, we all have 24 hours in a day. Some of us sleep 9 hours, some of us sleep 5. These 4 hours is what really makes the difference.

Colleague: True. But you have to know how to use them properly.

Me: But that’s already a different topic, right?

Colleague: True. Good night.

Transactional psychoanalysis & Nietzsche

It is quite funny but I bought “Thus Spoke Zarathurstra” by Friedrich Nietzsche during an ongoing sale a few years ago.

I have to admit that this book made a severe impact for my personality.

One of the key things that I remember from the book are “The three metamorphoses of the spirit” – the camel, lion and the child:

Of the three metamorphoses of the spirit I tell you: how the spirit becomes a camel; and the camel, a lion; and the lion, finally, a child.
There is much that is difficult for the spirit, the strong, reverent spirit that would bear much: but the difficult and the most difficult are what its strength demands.
What is difficult? asks the spirit that would bear much, and kneels down like a camel wanting to be well loaded. What is most difficult, O heroes, asks the spirit that would bear much, that I may take it upon myself and exult in my strength? Is it not humbling oneself to wound one’s haughtiness? Letting one’s folly shine to mock one’s wisdom?…
Or is it this: stepping into filthy waters when they are the waters of truth, and not repulsing cold frogs and hot toads?
Or is it this: loving those that despise us and offering a hand to the ghost that would frighten us?
All these most difficult things the spirit that would bear much takes upon itself: like the camel that, burdened, speeds into the desert, thus the spirit speeds into its desert.
In the loneliest desert, however, the second metamorphosis occurs: here the spirit becomes a lion who would conquer his freedom and be master in his own desert. Here he seeks out his last master: he wants to fight him and his last god; for ultimate victory he wants to fight with the great dragon.
Who is the great dragon whom the spirit will no longer call lord and god? “Thou shalt” is the name of the great dragon. But the spirit of the lion says, “I will.” “Thou shalt” lies in his way, sparkling like gold, an animal covered with scales; and on every scale shines a golden “thou shalt.”
Values, thousands of years old, shine on these scales; and thus speaks the mightiest of all dragons: “All value has long been created, and I am all created value. Verily, there shall be no more ‘I will.’” Thus speaks the dragon.
My brothers, why is there a need in the spirit for the lion? Why is not the beast of burden, which renounces and is reverent, enough?
To create new values — that even the lion cannot do; but the creation of freedom for oneself and a sacred “No” even to duty — for that, my brothers, the lion is needed. To assume the right to new values — that is the most terrifying assumption for a reverent spirit that would bear much. Verily, to him it is preying, and a matter for a beast of prey. He once loved “thou shalt” as most sacred: now he must find illusion and caprice even in the most sacred, that freedom from his love may become his prey: the lion is needed for such prey.
But say, my brothers, what can the child do that even the lion could not do? Why must the preying lion still become a child? The child is innocence and forgetting, a new beginning, a game, a self-propelled wheel, a first movement, a sacred “Yes.” For the game of creation, my brothers, a sacred “Yes” is needed: the spirit now wills his own will, and he who had been lost to the world now conquers the world.

Later on I read a book on transactional psychoanalysis “Games people play” by Eric Berne and he was contemplating about 3 levels of conscious: the parent, the adult and the child.

The book was written in 1960′s and Nietszche’s Zarathustra was written in 1880′s.

I must admit that Nietzsche’s Zarathustra Camel, Lion & Child and Eric Berne’s Parent, Adult & Child are exactly the same things. Meaning that Nietzsche was talking about transactional psychoanalysis on philosophical scale decades ago transactional psychoanalysis was postulated.

Dare to imagine

fly high

Everything starts from the first step.

The first step is really simple, you have to be courageous enough to dare to imagine.

Success is a state of mind not the destination

In order to become happy and successful you have to answer the following questions.

  • Who are you?
  • Where are you going?
  • With whom are you going?
  • Where this will take you?

Keep asking these questions yourself periodically and remember that success is a state of mind not the destination.

Two things can define you



Two things can define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.

Insights #2: Body language

As one should already know, we get only 30% of actual information during verbal conversation. Other 70% are sent via non-verbal body language.

Once I understood that without proper knowledge one could never get all the message and what’s behind it, I decided to start learning this social art by reading books, watching videos and movies, real practicing, observing. Human is a curious thing, right?

Some 3-4 years later after my decision was made, I can actually scan information even without putting any efforts into the process. This skill changes your life A LOT. Here are 3 things why:

  1. The truth is not always what you’ll like
  2. You might loose some relations
  3. With more accurate information, better decisions can be made

Insights #1: Psychology skills in B2B

A small talk during a business party.

P1: What are the key elements to succeed in business?

P2: I’m very much into psychology, human behavior, NLP.

P1: But your product and customers are B2B not B2C, why do you think you need these skills?

P2: And who operates the business and makes the decisions?